YOU CAN'T OPTIMIZE THIS
Why Your Success Tactics Don't Work In Your Relationships
You Can’t Optimize This is a relationship guide for high performers who’ve mastered everything — except intimacy.
Built for entrepreneurs, executives, and driven individuals, the book exposes why the very skills that fuel success — discipline, logic, systems — quietly sabotage emotional connection.
Through sharp insights, real-world stories, and a no-fluff approach, You Can’t Optimize This offers a new path: one where surrender, presence, and honesty replace strategies and scripts.
It’s not about trying harder.
It’s about showing up differently.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re brilliant at business but lost at home — this book will change how you love.
Why I Wrote
YOU CAN'T OPTIMIZE THIS
For most of my life, success was about mastery — over time, over outcomes, over myself.
But what I couldn’t master was the one thing that mattered most: connection.
I wrote You Can’t Optimize This because high performers aren’t failing at love for lack of effort.
They’re failing because they’re using the wrong map.
This book is the conversation I wish I had when I was trying to solve intimacy like a business problem — and losing myself in the process.
It’s not a manual.
It’s an invitation.
What’s Next?
You Can’t Optimize This is just the beginning.
Next, I’m building a series of workshops and live experiences for high performers who are ready to bring the same intentionality to their relationships that they bring to their careers — without losing their identity in the process.
Because mastering love isn’t about adding another system.
It’s about learning how to be fully human — even at the top.
